Words to live by.
Words to live by.
dang girl, you’ll make the prettiest flowers once your body rots into the earth.
Anonymous said: Girl, tell me what that coffee tasted like. I've always kinda wondered what happens to the taste of coffee after the recommended use by date. (Hi, I work at Starbucks).
It was just…stale. And extra-extra bitter. And not smooth. The bottom of the cup was also too thick, as I kept drinking, which I did out of sheer desperation (the green tea is for tomorrow).
It wasn’t like, “ah yes a cup of mold” or anything like that, but it was clear that no matter how much creamy sweetness was added, stale bitterness was going to come through as the main taste. Like I could grimace and drink it to get my caffeine, but there was just not gonna be any way to make it a pleasant delivery system.
Anonymous said: Not the previous anon, I should add!
Oh, of course not! Nobody ever is :p
In case that last answer was tl;dr, I am not answering questions on this tumblr related to my lj anymore. Again, my LJ allows anonymous comments, and I have always let basically anything that’s not intentionally hostile through. I am open to criticism and questioning and willing to engage over there. I’m not even secretive about my email address. It’s simple to contact me about non-tumblr stuff on non-tumblr sites. That’s not what this blog is for anymore. So it’s just gonna get deleted, if it is about lj. It’s not personal.
Anonymous said: I don't know the whole situation, but you have to admit that was kind of harsh. You always seem to be mocking Isaac - you say he is very sensitive, perhaps he senses that in the way you treat him? As a child I was super sensitive and being mocked, even though it wasn't mean-spirited and it was meant to be good-natured fun, always devastated me. I still hate that sort of mocking (the mocking by repeating back what I've said) to be really hurtful.
No, it absolutely was not harsh. If you lived in my house, you would think I described it in an understated way. Maybe people don’t understand that Isaac has some real issues that he’s been in counseling and undergoing assessment for, for years? But he does. Along with dietary sensitivities that play into his moods. This is one of the only things I’ve ever filtered some of or avoided talking about in depth on my lj, so maybe that contributes to misunderstandings at times. He’s a very smart, adorable, hilarious, HELPFUL kid, who is a serious catalyst for conflict among siblings, and has some pretty intense meltdowns. He is completely worth it, but he has also always been radically more work than any of my others. Which is ok - it just IS. Saying that it is, is not talking shit. It’s reality.
I just read that entire entry over to see how you could think I was mocking him, and I honestly think people who see this are LOOKING for it and reading everything I write *trying* to see it. Because if you just looked at the entry without any preconceived notions like that, the only person I’m really mocking is Annie - several times over. Everything from the lack of enthusiasm, and period complaints, to derby stink. Yet nobody said a word about that? Isaac, I am DESCRIBING. Because it’s a journal, and parenting him is a huge part of my life. Just like how I described Elise’s inability to read - perhaps that seemed like, “mocking” her to you? Good lord. I also said things in that entry about Isaac being smart and self aware, about how I’ve prioritized reading to him every night and talking with him every morning since he’s been in school, about how he reads chapter books for pleasure, how he’s self motivated with homework - ? Anyway, I also don’t talk directly to him in the same way I would write in my lj. OBVIOUSLY. I certainly don’t mock him for “good natured fun.”
He, himself, has no problem with how I treat him, and frequently pulls me aside to talk to other adults and try to get them to understand how he likes and needs to be treated. Or lets me in his locked door, or whatever.
This conversation is over - I’m going to delete anything else that comes in here about it. I don’t know if this has become a troll topic on some bs hate reading site or it’s really source of concern for some misguided folks who need something imaginary to worry about, and I’m not even sure which of those I find more irritating. But this is not even the website I’m blogging about my kids on, so I seriously doubt followers here even want to see this stuff. And I ALLOW ANONYMOUS COMMENTS ON LJ, good freaking grief. Yes it logs IPs, I honestly don’t understand why that’s even a concern, unless you are 1.) a “friend” “expressing concerns” behind a shield*, or 2.) the same person making a bunch of comments pretending to be a crowd. If either of those are the case, I don’t want to hear what you have to say anyway. *If you are a friend and bring an actual concern to me, I will of course hear you out.
If you thinking taking selfies is immature and stupid, just get out okay.
All through my adolescence I fucking hated how I looked and hated people taking my picture and that’s no way to live because then you look back and realize you have no pictures of yourself.
So if girls today have enough self esteem to take a picture of themselves and post it for their friends, that’s awesome. So much better than them never wanting their picture taken.