Shame on G for that picture, doesn't he know he's supposed to wait until you've been out all day, are at home, removing said clothes, to then tell you the whole world's been turned on by your Thong? What kinda guy is he? LOL
A while back either you, or babyslime or some other blogging mama who shares links posted one to a badly drawn comic about a mom who is basically up all night dealing with her kids while her husband somehow sleeps through the whole thing... do you have any idea what I'm talking about? I've been trying to find it again for the last hour and it's making me insane!!!
I do remember what you’re talking about, here, but I don’t remember where it was, either….I think I actually came across that on facebook? I’ll try to see if I maybe messaged it to anyone as a link that would be saved somewhere…
How's elise's speech development going? I ask because I noticed she's still saying "me" instead of "I". Is that the only issue she has? P.S I dont mean this question as a judgment in any way, I know you're 100% capable of giving her anything and everything she needs to exceed every expectation anyone's ever had of her, I'm just curious about whether it concerns you or needs treatment. P.P.S your entry was spot on, you've done amazingly well and come so far. I'm only 8 years younger than you and I could only hope to be half the mother and woman you are in 10 or even 20 years.
Thanks :) I really believe people rise to the ocassion in unbelievable ways when a baby appears; it’s hard to ever feel “ready”…
Her speech is making big headway right now. For about 3 months I was worried because she didn’t seem to be making any progress, but starting around the beginning of June she was having a language explosion and stringing together longer sentences and paragraphs every day. She actually alternates between “me” and “I” where “I” is appropriate now, and it used to always be “me”. She also confuses is, am and are often.
Speech is definitely the area she struggles with most, but that’s not really saying a lot, since she’s pretty advanced in other ways. I do think she has a slight speech lag for her age. I just try to keep it in perspective, that we were told she might not ever talk and we’re talking brain death of the area…viewed in that light it’s far less worrisome and far more fantastic ;)
Can I ask why you chose a less permanent method of birth control if you really feel there are no more children in your future? Neither you nor Grant just felt psychologically ready to give it up for good?
Both of us feel more comfortable with putting a device in one of us that can be removed if it isn’t jiving than with permanently altering either of our bodies. I’m really freaked by the prostate cancer risk increase associated with vasectomies and even if it’s remote, it’s not something I want to have to be dealing with in x number of years. I flipped about the post-vasectomy pain syndrome thing when I read it. You have to try to remember we’re crazy naturalists; no, it isn’t natural to have a piece of copper wrapped plastic in your uterus, BUT, it’s a hormone free method of birth control that doesn’t actually mess up any functioning part of the reproductive system.
Also, as far as less permanent, I’m 29 and Paragards have been proven effective for 12 years at this point; they’re expected to be approved for 15 during the duration of my IUD usage. Point being it could easily take me through the end of my child-bearing years.
What appeals to you about that "Girls Gone Wild" quote? I'm trying to put my finger on why it bothers me. It just doesn't seem right.
I think it’s ridiculous bullshit that the guys who make/watch those videos act like that’s how a chick would get wild - by flashing their boobs and sleeping with them. Like what a woman is, inside, is simplistic and all about them. It’s just dumb, and the way that quote went on about how women actually get wild…it’s not like it’s good, or even necessarily accurate, but it bucks the stereotype of chicks finally just losing their inhibitions and getting gangbanged on the bus (not that there aren’t chicks who would want that…but I think you know what I mean?) and points to the complexity and struggles actually involved in being a woman from a woman’s perspective. Like, kids are really frustrating and burdening at times and men can suck it.
I mean it’s also a joke. Obviously there’s plenty that doesn’t seem right about slaughtering children :p
“There’s a reason it’s called ‘girls gone wild’ and not ‘women gone wild’. When girls go wild, they show their tits. When women go wild, they kill men and drown their kids in a tub.”—Louis C.K. (via rennaindefinitely)
This is Ananda playing Angry Birds on my bed on her cell phone while Isaac, Jake and Elise crowd around to watch.
And this is Aaron in another room patiently doing what he’s been doing for like a solid week now - earning Oliver’s trust. Today he is finally able to actually TOUCH THE BIRD, WITH HIS HAND. Previous days have seen him passing Oliver food and toys by hand, and even getting his head in and Oliver just nuzzling his head, but he wouldn’t let himself be touched. Now, he’s lifting his wings and lowering his head and can’t get enough of it.
I don’t know what’s up with that face he’s making.
Let her be bored. Let her have long afternoons with absolutely nothing to do. Limit her TV-watching time and her internet-playing time and take away her cell phone. Give her a whole summer of lazy mornings and dreamy afternoons. Make sure she has a library card and a comfy corner where she can curl up with a book.
Give her a notebook and five bucks so she can pick out a great pen. Insist she spend time with the family. It’s even better if this time is spent in another state, a cabin in the woods, a cottage on the lake, far from her friends and people her own age. Give her some tedious chores to do. Make her mow the lawn, do the dishes by hand, paint the garage. Make her go on long walks with you and tell her you just want to listen to the sounds of the neighborhood.
Let her be lonely. Let her believe that no one in the world truly understands her. Give her the freedom to fall in love with the wrong person, to lose her heart, to have it smashed and abused and broken. Occasionally be too busy to listen, be distracted by other things, have your nose in a great book, be gone with your own friends. Let her have secrets
What "different kind of writing"? And, while we're on the subject, what is your process like? Notes, fleshed out gradually...or do you just jump right in?
Well, for social science I had to do a formal research paper with a lot of embedded citations and an annotated bibliography. Clearly I would not normally be worried about APA formatting in my personal writing ;) In English I’ve had to do specific stylistic essays; causes and effect, ironic and argument so far.
I do notes and planning for school assignments and for my surgery book. My short stories and poetry have been jumping right in.
I saw the video of your kids jumping off the roof onto a jury rigged trampoline with an air mattress...WHY do you let them do this??? They could be SERIOUSLY hurt!!!
First of all, it was Grant doing it with them, I wasn’t even aware of it happening. Second, lots of things could get people seriously hurt. Grant and I both believe it’s worth it for kids to jump on trampolines, climb trees, ride bikes without helmets when it’s 106 degrees outside and they’d never do it otherwise, etc in the name of childhood fun and normal development. Aaron broke his arm doing advanced flips last summer; he still does flips. I am fully aware this is a controversial stance in “This day and age”, but I assure you that dropping like 5 feet from the roof surface to the stacked air mattresses with Dad standing there is really not exactly death’s door.
I wonder what you might have thought of the comment thread on facebook when he posted that video there, and everyone was like “oooh we used to jump off the roof just onto the ground, when adults weren’t looking!!! hahaha”.
P.S. What exactly was “jury rigged” about the trampoline? I assure you it’s a properly manufactured, true to life, bonafide trampoline, set on level ground ;) I’ll be sure to let you know if we do slap one together with sticks and sheets and let the kids test it out to see if it works.