“Something is fundamentally wrong with the female body and it’s natural to be unhappy with it. It’s not just natural teenage insecurity either. In our society, adult female bodies are treated like mistakes that continually need correcting. It’s too smelly, it’s too hairy, it’s the wrong shape, it’s the wrong colour. We’re seen to be badly designed somehow, needing extra stuff to make them okay. Being unhappy about your body is often presented as one of the essential personality traits of women, if we believe what society tells us.”—Teenagers and Cosmetic Surgery - The F-Word (via mysexycankles, ilovefat)
you have the fridge i wanted but couldnt get because we have a big giant UGLY island in the way that is barely functional. so. jealous.
Yeah I might want an island if/when I’m doing a lot more entertaining (more counter/appliance space) and the kids are older, but at this point I feel like it would be so stupid to fill up all that spaceous kitchen area with an island. I love that fridge, but I felt duped after we bought it because I hadn’t realized you can’t put magnets on stainless steel until we owned it. I might have gotten it anyway…but I might not have.
Things that resonated with me from sex-death-rebirth.tumblr.com, grouped together into one post so as not to dominate my tumblr for the next week.
"The power of sex is due to the sexual division of virtually all of creation. Male and female were not created to exist separately. Woman was made to complete man; and man, woman — anatomically, biologically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The power of the sex drive springs from the longings of the incomplete being for completion. A divided creation consequently suffers, longing for union and fulfillment…The union sought, however, is more than sexual. It is a longing for a personal union of which the sexual is but a part and not the whole."-Howard & Charlotte Clinebell (The Intimate Marriage)
"Erotic pleasure arguably requires a kind of momentary annihilation or suspension of what normally counts as ‘identity,’ the conscious, masterful, self-identical self, lost in the ‘little death’ of orgasm. These momentary suspensions, when linked together in the context of a particular relationship, work towards a more profound kind of ego destruction."-Catherine Waldby (Destruction)
"Sexuality and spirituality have long had a conflicted relationship. Many people see them as polarized rivals for consciousness- that to pursue one is to deny the other. Such philosophies tell us that to become spiritual we need to overcome desire, to renounce sexuality, to rise above our feelings. Other practices, such as Tantra, see sexuality and spirituality as an indivisible whole, each one enhancing the other."
-Anodea Judith (Eastern Body Western Mind)
"Many ancient cultures believed their orgasms were mystical experiences, and there can be little doubt that such a perception had its roots in the accumulated folk wisdom of the ancient people’s own distant ancestors. It should be of no wonder, really, that the rapturous sensation of the immediate aftermath of orgasm was revered as something on a parallel with a religious experience from the moment human beings began to develop spirituality- the belief, often prompted by times of crisis, that there is meaning, purpose, inspiration and answers about the infinite to be had in life."-Jonathan Margolis (The Intimate History of the Orgasm)
"The use of ritual, rites of passage, initiatory practices- the ordeals of shamanistic training and those of S/M are similar…Through the meditation of a long, slow whipping, for instance, a profound experience is achieved…Only in some Eastern traditions, such as Tantra, has the concept of sex as a way of knowledge- as a tool on the spiritual path-be recognized…Bondage in particular has much in common with Eastern meditative religious practices such as yoga, bondage often keeps a person immobile for extended periods of time; like yoga, bondage often distorts the body is confines; and, like yoga, the result of this extended immobility and physical distortion on the mind is a sense of well being…[and a] mental euphoria at the edge of physical limits."-Robert G. Westerfalhaus (THE SPIRITUALITY OF SEX AND THE SEXUALITY OF THE SPIRIT: BDSM EROTIC PLAY AS SOULWORK AND SOCIAL CRITIQUE)
"Sex isn’t good unless it means something. It doesn’t necessarily need to mean “love” and it doesn’t necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection…There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."-Laura Sessions Stepp (Unhooked)
“A book is the only place in which you can examine a fragile thought without breaking it, or explore an explosive idea without fear it will go off in your face. It is one of the few havens remaining where a man’s mind can get both provocation and privacy.”—
“It’s true the people we meet shape us. But the people we don’t meet shape us also, often more because we have imagined them so vividly. There are people we yearn for but never seem to meet.”—“Tiger, Tiger” by Simon Van Booy (from The Secret Lives of People in Love) (via mysexycankles, leopoldgursky)
Did I miss what was happening with sending the kids to school this year? You're keeping them home after all?
I was considering a charter school down the street mainly for “selfish” reasons, in the spring (I wanted to go back to college full time). A whole lot of factors converged in keeping them home - everyone established and deepened friendships with new homeschoolers such that their social lives were rapidly expanding with awesome kids I would like to stay in their lives, and I heard some really bad stuff about the charter school we’d been considering from Annie’s GS troop leader, who had pulled her kids put of there, and they didn’t get in there anyway when it had been our only consideration (they have a long waiting list). The main things, though, were that I went to college full time for the summer semester just fine with them all home and saw how it can work - and I had some really great teaching experiences with them, in the last couple of
Anyway everybody is happy and I feel really good about it. I still think of Elise as a homeschooler, too, her preschool is just something for 3 hours in the mornings this year and not so different from when A&A were in dance every night of the week or the older four went to music day camp over the summer :)