I thought you bought your house outright when you got the big settlement and now you were close to facing foreclosure. How does this work. Was it for back taxes? Just curious. And and and....your sister is gorgeous and that new baby is just beautiful. So chubby and so cute.
We bought it outright for $220,000, but ended up getting a $100,000 loan on it because our settlement was running out right as we found out about some very expensive work it needed (like, inspector had told us $500 roof repair and really once we were in it was $15,000 new roof, and $2000 for an electrician, and we thought the central AC was about to go but it’s still chugging along) and my mother had emergencies. So we still owe a lot less than it’s worth and it facilitated some decent stuff - and our payment is low, we can sell and get a chunk of money, blah blah. If I could go back in time I feel like I would desperately find SOME WAY to not do it, but I understand why we did. The escrow is really high though, yeah, we have paid more in taxes and insurance throughout our years here than we have in actual mortgage, per month. It’s gone down some but for the first two years we were paying over $10,000 per year in escrow (taxes/insurance).
Do you consider it a real marriage if people have sex with other people besides their mate?
I consider marriage to be a mutually agreed upon and understood commitment people enter into together, because of a desire to deepen their connection or make things more permanent or bring God into it or declare to the world that they really mean this - there are a lot of reasons and combinations… I’m sure there are people out there who are really married and really ok with having sex with others. I’m also sure there are people who did not plan it that way at all and consider that the other person would be invalidating their marriage through cheating, if they stepped out. I’m sure they’re both probably right.
You have to understand that even “Christian marriage” can mean an awful lot of different things, and is not the only kind out there, by a long shot. I have a feeling your own understanding of Christian marriage is probably what you mean by “real”.
Why were cps and the cops at your house? who called them?
Counselors legally have to report to CPS, who notify the police, when “child on child” sexual activity is reported, to see if it’s because the child doing the activity has been abused (if you’re still confused, go back and read…this is why we took Isaac to counseling, because he was trying to initiate things that made Jake and Elise uncomfortable). It’s standard procedure, though still freaky in the moment. In a way, though, it was also very comforting to know that CPS could show up at our house unexpectedly one messy evening and find that we’re a good family with a good house and nothing amiss. The police coming by is basically what happened a few days later for the case to be closed, it’s a “follow up” that allows them to make it legally a done deal. Supposedly, this is not the kind of thing that causes us to have a record or ongoing file.
Also, the case worker was able to get us extra funding for Isaac to have extensions on the counseling he’s getting, which is nice.
And, this is totally the kind of thing that could be asked in my journal and only seems creepy because it’s anonymous on a different site.
Totally not a question, but a comment: I try to go by the rule of if I wouldn't ask it to your face, I should probably mind my own business, so asking anonymously is kind of a weird concept. Maybe I just fail at Tumblr? (Okay, I lied. There is a question there, albeit rhetorical. )
Dude, maybe blur/block out the kids' last names, at least, in that Facebook grab?
Why? I’m not just being obtuse: they’re all kids whose parents, I know, are cool with public internet picture sharing and them having their own YouTube accounts with their names and things, except for the two using obviously fake names with like, illustrations in place of pics. I don’t get the paranoia. Do you think phone books should be blurred and kids should cover their faces out in public? I’m not just trying to be hostile, I really truly honestly don’t understand what the concern is (and, clearly, never have, since I share my own kids’ info freely). I mean none of us are letting our kids on the internet without some basic “don’t friend or respond to strangers, understand there are perverts out there” info, and they all have their general fb accts privatized. Annie knew I was sharing it and thought it was hilarious. There’s nothing even remotely personal or vaguely incriminating there being revealed about a single one of them. *shrug of confusion*
How much will your book cost, and where will it be sold?
I’m pretty sure we’re looking at a 4.99 e-book or 7.99 paperback - that’s at least very close. It will be on amazon both ways and available for nook, and in local book stores as well as at the Miami Book Fair :)
Hmmmmm….Aaron listens to “Hope’s Theme” every night on repeat in his and Jake’s room even though it drives Jake crazy. He loves Bach’s cello suites and the Shire songs on piccolo from the Lord of the Rings soundtrack and “The District Sleeps Alone Tonight” by the Postal Service. I sing him “Gold Day” by Sparklehorse sometimes, and always on his birthday, and he likes that.
Ananda is really into a lot of Avril Lavigne and Paramore and 90s rocks right now. She really loves a lot of music, though, she’s obsessive about it and walks around with headphones on all the time. She can pretty much do anything I like too, with a few rare exceptions that are mostly industrial.
Both of them make me nuts with the freakin’ My Little Pony songs lately. And they sing along with every single word, very enthusiastically, when I play Fun’s “We Are Young” loud in the van.
Isaac loves MGMT and various spanglish Wyclef Jean songs I sometimes come back around to (like Guantanamera and Hips Don’t Lie). “His song” was Somewhere Over the Rainbow and sometimes I still sing that to him if he’s sick or sleepy (closest to the Tori Amos version).
Jake’s favorite song has been “To Be Surprised” from the Dan in Real Life soundtrack, like, forever. He really likes Lady GaGa too, or at least did for awhile. He’s very hard to please musically.
Elise loves/d GaGa and always tries to sing along with Regina Spektor….she likes just about anything.
All three of the younger kids are NUTS for Christmas Carols a solid 4 months out of the year.
“For the first eight years of our marriage, [Michelle and I] were paying more in student loans than what we were paying for our mortgage. So we know what this is about.
And we were lucky to land good jobs with a steady income. But we only finished paying off our student loans—check this out, all right, I’m the President of the United States—we only finished paying off our student loans about eight years ago.”—President Obama in North Carolina today on why Congress has to act to prevent interest rates on student loans from doubling (via barackobama)