We bought it outright for $220,000, but ended up getting a $100,000 loan on it because our settlement was running out right as we found out about some very expensive work it needed (like, inspector had told us $500 roof repair and really once we were in it was $15,000 new roof, and $2000 for an electrician, and we thought the central AC was about to go but it’s still chugging along) and my mother had emergencies. So we still owe a lot less than it’s worth and it facilitated some decent stuff - and our payment is low, we can sell and get a chunk of money, blah blah. If I could go back in time I feel like I would desperately find SOME WAY to not do it, but I understand why we did. The escrow is really high though, yeah, we have paid more in taxes and insurance throughout our years here than we have in actual mortgage, per month. It’s gone down some but for the first two years we were paying over $10,000 per year in escrow (taxes/insurance).
Yeah. Most recently I asked early-onset-of-night if he gets lonely and what he looks forward to, and askbox-told myothervulvaisacorvette that she has the coolest name on tumblr.
I do this openly as myself even, can you imagine?
One of my dreams last night involved sitting in a facility somewhere, while someone shaved off my leg hair and then drew it back on with charcoal pencils.
I wish I could remember the rest.
I consider marriage to be a mutually agreed upon and understood commitment people enter into together, because of a desire to deepen their connection or make things more permanent or bring God into it or declare to the world that they really mean this - there are a lot of reasons and combinations… I’m sure there are people out there who are really married and really ok with having sex with others. I’m also sure there are people who did not plan it that way at all and consider that the other person would be invalidating their marriage through cheating, if they stepped out. I’m sure they’re both probably right.
You have to understand that even “Christian marriage” can mean an awful lot of different things, and is not the only kind out there, by a long shot. I have a feeling your own understanding of Christian marriage is probably what you mean by “real”.